How to Socialize During Pickleball. Tips for Introverts!

I’m decent at pickleball but not very good at small talk!

As an introvert who loves playing the sport, I’ve had to push myself out of my comfort zone, often showing up at new venues and meeting new people. 

And that’s soooo much more difficult than playing!

The social aspect of pickleball is a beautiful part of the game, but that doesn’t mean it comes easy to everyone. Sometimes, figuring out what do you say after saying hello is harder than hitting two ATPs in a row!

So, to help my fellow introverts, here are some tips for making conversation during pickleball.

Before the Game

• While waiting for your match, break the silence by asking players around you how long they’ve been playing or how they got into pickleball. Fellow enthusiasts usually jump at the chance to discuss their passion.

• When you get their name, make a conscious effort to remember it! Repeat their name back to them in conversation and associate their name with something distinct about them. Many people probably remember me as Andrew The Bearded Guy.

• Inquire about their skill level or recent wins/losses. Commiserating over pickleball challenges is an easy common ground.

During the Game

• Between points, compliment your opponents with “Nice shot!” or “Way to hustle!” Positive reinforcement helps everyone relax and enjoy themselves.

• Similarly, support and paddle tap your partner frequently. Analyze your cooperative strengths and weaknesses together.

• Don’t fret silences – just focus on the game. Remember, introverts often connect better while engaged in an activity.

After the Game

• Recap the highlights and fun moments. Ask if they’ve tried any new equipment or pickleball techniques lately.

• Inquire about other hobbies beyond pickleball. Look for common interests you can bond over.

• Discuss favorite local pickleball venues and tournaments. Exchange recommendations.

• If conversation lags, no problem. Simply thank them for the game and head out. Extroverts will understand…they are likely seeking out their next conversation!

The key is to start with pickleball-related questions then try to find shared interests. Keep it casual and upbeat. With practice over time, maintaining friendly dialogues will start to feel more natural.

Additional Tips

Involving Everyone
As an introvert, I try to be mindful to actively include everyone around me in the conversation. I’ll gently prompt quieter folks with questions like “What do you think, Mary?” or “Have you dealt with that issue too, Jeff?” Making a point to get wider participation ensures no one feels left out.

Non-Verbal Communication
I’m also careful to maintain friendly non-verbal communication when chatting before or after games. Meeting people’s eyes with a smile and nodding along to their comments goes a long way, even if I’m not feeling very talkative. These subtle cues convey interest and help put both extroverts and introverts at ease.

Also, be kind to yourself. Do not beat yourself up over any awkward or quiet exchanges. You are who you are, and that is not only a beautiful thing, it is the way things are meant to be.

Happy playing! And happy socializing!